The preliminary process of educating ourselves will often point us in what we feel is the right direction, but sometimes information isn’t enough and we get stuck in the muddiness of ambiguity. We can see benefits to both sides of the decision and simply don’t know which way to go.

It is at this point that it may be helpful to pray for divine guidance, asking for a light to shine on the situation so we can more clearly see the best path. A prayer might be something like this: “If this is best for me and all those concerned, I pray that it will happen, and if it is not best for me and all those concerned, I pray that it will NOT happen”.

Some people describe this as “Let go, let God”. One dear friend says “Make it happen, let it happen”. The point is that it is necessary to make an effort to at least point ourselves in the direction that seems best before letting go.

It is pretty much a guarantee that when you make a major decision, someone will be available to criticize your choice and share a better way with you (usually their way). Of course, if you are presented with valuable information, you may wish to re-evaluate your decision and change your course of action.

If not, it may be helpful to recognize that the person with a better way cares about you, and in their way, is trying to help you. In this situation, you may respond with something like, “Thank you for your concern. I want you to know that I feel very comfortable with the path I have chosen, and that I really appreciate your support”.

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